The Dudela Podcast | Fatherhood Real Talk for New Dads

Every dad has strengths.
Every dad has weaknesses.
The question is whether you know what yours are.
In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael revisit one of our most popular conversations about what dads should be focusing on and take it one step deeper. Instead of talking about checklists and preparation, we talk about the man behind the dad.
Because becoming a great father is not about pretending you're perfect. It's about knowing yourself well enough to build on your strengths, recognize your blind spots, and intentionally become the dad your family needs.
We share honest stories from the past two years of fatherhood, from potty training twins and emotional reactions to the simple moments that reveal who we're becoming. We talk about learning to pause before reacting, giving yourself grace after you mess up, communicating honestly with your spouse, and remembering that your kids are watching far more than they are listening.
Your children will copy your habits long before they understand your words.
The way you treat your wife.
The way you respond to stress.
The way you talk about yourself.
The way you apologize.
The way you lead.
Those are the things they'll remember.
Whether you're expecting your first baby or you're already chasing toddlers around the house, this episode will challenge you to take an honest look in the mirror and become a more intentional, emotionally steady father.
In This Episode
• Why every dad needs to know both his strengths and weaknesses
• The difference between reacting and responding
• How planning ahead helps you stay calm under pressure
• Potty training twins and learning patience in real time
• Why your kids copy everything you do, even the things you don't notice
• Building healthy communication with your spouse through regular check ins
• Giving yourself grace after losing your cool
• Why apologizing to your kids matters, even when they're too young to understand
• Leading your family with intention instead of emotion
• How dads and moms naturally bring different strengths to parenting
• Practical ways to become proactive instead of reactive
• Why becoming a better husband helps you become a better father
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Resources Mentioned
🧡 Free Dad Prep Guide
https://www.thedudelaco.com/guide
A practical guide packed with the essential things every expecting dad should know before baby arrives.
💪 Dudela Prep Kit
https://dudelaco.gumroad.com/l/dudela-prep-kit
Our complete fatherhood preparation framework covering pregnancy, birth, postpartum, finances, emotions, communication, and practical tools like the Brain Dump and One Word Check In.
🎙️ Ask Dudela
Have a question about fatherhood, pregnancy, marriage, or newborn life?
Leave us a voicemail directly on our website and we may answer it on a future episode.
🤝 Join the Spit Up Society
Join our live community of dads for just $5 per month.
You'll get access to two live Q&A sessions every month where we answer your questions, share practical fatherhood advice, and build community with dads who are in the same season of life.
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Your Challenge This Week
Ask your spouse one simple question:
"What's one strength you see in me as a dad, and what's one area where I could grow?"
Listen without getting defensive.
Then ask yourself one more question:
Am I becoming the kind of dad I hope my kids remember?
Growth starts with honesty. And every great dad is still growing.

Everyone tells you to put your kids first.
But one of the best things you can do for your kids is invest in the relationship that started your family.
In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael share what happened when they each took their first kid free trips with their wives after becoming parents. From airport freedom and uninterrupted dinners to missing their toddlers and rediscovering what it feels like to simply be husband and wife again, this conversation is an honest look at why healthy marriages create healthy families.
Leaving your baby for the first time can feel exciting, terrifying, and even a little guilt inducing. Is it too soon? Will they be okay? Should we even go?
We unpack those questions along with practical advice on when to plan your first overnight trip, how to lean on grandparents and your support system, why staying home isn't always enough for a real date night, and how stepping away from your daily routine helps you reconnect as a couple.
We also talk about something many new parents experience but rarely say out loud. After months of diapers, bottles, nap schedules, and surviving on little sleep, it's easy to forget the people you were before becoming mom and dad. Taking time away isn't about escaping your kids. It's about strengthening your marriage so you can come home refreshed, connected, and ready to lead your family well.
Whether you're expecting your first baby or you're deep in the toddler years, this episode is a reminder that your marriage deserves intentional investment too.
In This Episode
Why your marriage is one of the greatest gifts you can give your kids
What it felt like taking our first kid free vacations
How long you should actually get away as new parents
Date nights versus overnight trips and why both matter
The guilt of leaving your child for the first time
Why grandparents and your village are essential
How becoming parents completely changes the way you travel
Helping your kids become comfortable with trusted caregivers
Affordable getaway ideas for young families
Why getting out of your house helps you reconnect
Building a marriage that lasts beyond the parenting years
Practical ways to prioritize your spouse without feeling selfish
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Resources Mentioned
🧡 Free Dad Prep Guide
https://www.thedudelaco.com/guide
Prepare for pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and your baby's first year with practical advice built specifically for expecting dads.
💪 Dudela Prep Kit
https://dudelaco.gumroad.com/l/dudela-prep-kit
Our complete fatherhood preparation system with practical tools covering emotions, finances, communication, birth, postpartum, routines, and everything we wish someone had taught us before becoming dads.
🎙️ Ask Dudela
Have a question about pregnancy, fatherhood, marriage, or newborn life?
Leave us a voicemail directly on our website and we may answer it in a future episode.
🤝 Join the Spit Up Society
Join our live community of dads for just $5 per month.
Twice every month we host live Q&A calls where you can ask questions, share wins, learn from other dads, and build real community.
Join here:
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Your Challenge This Week
Pull out your calendar.
Find one date with your spouse.
Not "sometime next month."
An actual date.
Maybe it's dinner.
Maybe it's coffee.
Maybe it's one night away while grandparents watch the kids.
Put it on the calendar and protect it.
Because one day your kids will grow up and leave home.
The marriage you're building today is the relationship you'll still have then.

Everyone talks about the registry.Everyone talks about the nursery colors.Almost nobody tells you the real number.
At Dudela, we believe part of being a steady dad is being a prepared one. That means having the money conversation before the bills show up, not after.
In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael break down the true cost of bringing a baby home, from the moment you see the plus sign through the first year of life. This is the conversation most guys don't have until they're staring at a credit card statement wondering where it all went.
The reality is that baby costs hit you in waves you don't see coming. Diapers alone will run through a box in under a month. Insurance deductibles reset the second you move from an individual plan to a family plan, which means you can hit your out of pocket max once during pregnancy and then hit it again when the baby arrives. Hospital bills show up weeks later with numbers that don't match what anyone told you at the appointment. And that's before you've bought a single onesie.
In this episode, we walk through real numbers. What a crib, dresser, and rocking chair actually cost. What a good car seat and stroller run you. What the average vaginal birth and C-section cost on insurance, and what the hospital will actually bill you if things go sideways. What a full first year costs excluding childcare, and what childcare itself adds on top of that. We also get into what nobody explains clearly, like why your out of pocket max resets, why five different people at your insurance company can give you five different answers, and why you need to ask the same question more than once before you trust it.
We also talk about the tools that help long term. Setting a household number you're both aligned on, even if it's arbitrary. 529 plans. The newer Trump Accounts for kids born within the eligible window. And why "set it and forget it" savings beats obsessing over a balance you can't change yet.
Most importantly, we talk about mindset. This isn't about scaring you. It's about giving you the landscape so you can plan instead of react, and so you and your wife are aligned before the first bill lands instead of blindsided by it.
🍼 In This Episode
Why the money conversation needs to start before the stroller conversation
How fast diapers, wipes, and formula actually add up
Why your insurance deductible and out of pocket max reset when you add a baby
What a vaginal birth and C-section typically cost on insurance
The real hospital bill numbers behind a NICU stay
What nursery setup actually costs, room by room
Car seats, strollers, and the gear that's worth spending more on
The gear that's worth buying used or skipping entirely
What a full first year of baby costs, excluding childcare
The real range for childcare and daycare per child
Why getting a second car seat base is a small cost with a big payoff
529 plans and Trump Accounts explained simply
Why aligning on a number as a couple matters more than the number itself
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🧡 Resources Mentioned
Free Dad Prep Guide
Dudela Prep KitOur complete fatherhood preparation framework, including the financial planning tools and action steps to help you have the money conversation with your wife before the bills start showing up.
Ask DudelaNeed advice, have a question, or just need to vent? Leave us a voicemail directly on our website and we'll do our best to respond.
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💪 Your Challenge This WeekPick a number.
Sit down with your wife and agree on a rough monthly number you're aiming to spend on baby expenses. It doesn't have to be right. It just has to be shared.
Then ask yourselves:Where can we cut back right now?Where can we grow our income?What's one bill we haven't talked about yet, like insurance, that we need to figure out this week?
You don't need the perfect number. You need to be aligned on one.

The Emotional Side of Fatherhood Nobody Talks About
Everyone talks about the baby's emotions.
Everyone talks about mom's emotions.
Almost nobody talks about dad's.
At Dudela, we believe one of the most important jobs of a father is becoming emotionally steady. Not emotionless. Not perfect. Steady.
In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael dive into one of the most overlooked parts of fatherhood: your emotional health.
Whether you're expecting your first baby, navigating pregnancy with your partner, or already in the thick of diapers, sleep deprivation, toddler meltdowns, and family responsibilities, this conversation is for you.
The reality is that fatherhood can be emotionally exhausting. You're carrying work stress, financial pressure, relationship dynamics, family responsibilities, and the weight of wanting to be a great dad. Most guys respond the same way. They bottle it up. They push through. They tell themselves they'll deal with it later.
But eventually, later shows up.
In this episode, we unpack what it means to become a steady dad emotionally. Not a perfect dad. Not a dad who never struggles. A dad who understands what he's feeling, processes it in healthy ways, and shows up for his family with consistency instead of chaos.
We share practical tools from the Dudela Prep Kit, including the Brain Dump exercise and the One Word Check In. We talk about finding safe places to process emotions, building friendships that can handle real conversations, and why getting your emotions out of your head and into the open changes everything.
Most importantly, we talk about giving yourself grace. Fatherhood is hard because you care. The fact that you're thinking about these things means you're already doing more than most.
🍼 In This Episode
• Why fatherhood is an emotional rollercoaster before and after baby arrives
• What it means to be a steady dad emotionally
• Why dads tend to bottle up emotions instead of processing them
• Finding healthy outlets before bringing stress home
• The power of friendship and honest conversations between dads
• How exercise, movement, and getting outside help regulate emotions
• The Brain Dump exercise and why it clears mental clutter
• The One Word Check In and how it reveals emotional patterns over time
• Why emotional awareness creates a calmer home environment
• Giving yourself grace during difficult seasons of fatherhood
• What to do when you feel isolated, overwhelmed, or stuck
 
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🧡 Resources Mentioned
• Free Dad Prep Guidehttps://www.thedudelaco.com/guide
• Dudela Prep Kithttps://dudelaco.gumroad.com/l/dudela-prep-kit
Our complete fatherhood preparation framework featuring the Brain Dump exercise, One Word Check In, and practical tools for navigating pregnancy, birth, and the first year of fatherhood.
• Ask DudelaNeed advice, have a question, or just need to vent? Leave us a voicemail directly on our website and we'll do our best to respond.
• Follow Along
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💪 Your Challenge This Week
Try a Brain Dump.
Set a timer for five minutes and write down everything taking up space in your head.
Work stress. Financial stress. Relationship stress. Home projects. Random to dos. Everything.
 
Then ask yourself:
What actually deserves my attention today?
What can wait?
What am I carrying that I don't need to carry anymore?
 
You might be surprised how much lighter you feel.

Most parenting resources focus on moms.
Most dads are told to just figure it out.
That's exactly why Dudela exists.
In this special rewind episode, John and Michael look back at where Dudela started, how two first time dads found themselves navigating emergency C sections, NICU stays, difficult pregnancies, sleepless nights, and the overwhelming transition into fatherhood, and why they felt called to build something specifically for dads.
What started as a joke on a family vacation became a podcast, a community, and now a growing collection of resources designed to help dads show up with more confidence during one of the biggest transitions of their lives.
John shares the story of bringing premature twin girls into the world after a high risk pregnancy, months of uncertainty, and a month long NICU stay. Michael opens up about an emergency C section that completely changed the birth plan in a matter of minutes. Together, they reflect on what they learned, what surprised them, and what they wish every expecting dad knew before stepping into the delivery room.
But this episode is not just about looking back.
It's about where Dudela is headed next.
We introduce the Dudela Prep Kit, a practical guide built from everything we've learned through our own experiences, conversations with experts, and questions from hundreds of dads. We also share our vision for the future of Dudela, including workshops, community support, resources for new fathers, and creating a place where dads can ask honest questions without feeling judged.
Whether you're expecting your first baby, preparing for delivery day, surviving the newborn stage, or simply trying to become the dad you want to be, this episode is for you.
Here's what we cover:
• The unexpected story behind the name Dudela• What becoming a dad actually felt like for both of us• Emergency C sections, NICU stays, and the moments that changed everything• Why most dads feel unprepared for pregnancy and birth• The mindset shift from spectator to active partner• The value of having other dads in your corner• Lessons learned from 22 episodes and conversations with incredible guests• The biggest questions expecting dads ask us• A behind the scenes look at the new Dudela Prep Kit• What's next for the Dudela community and how we're planning to help more dads
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Resources Mentioned:
• The Dudela Prep Kit• Free Dad Prep Guide• The Spit Up Society Dad Community
Homework:
If you're expecting, ask yourself this question: "What kind of dad do I want my child to remember?"
Write down three words. Keep them somewhere visible. Start becoming that dad today.
If you know a guy who's expecting a baby, send him this episode.
And if Dudela has helped you in any way, share the podcast with another dad. That's how this community grows.
Ready to feel more prepared for fatherhood?
Grab the free Dad Prep Guide and check out the Dudela Prep Kit at thedudelaco.com.

You do not get to pick the family you are born into. But you do get to build the family you lead.
In part one of our Family Matters series, John and Michael talk about the me to we shift that happens when you go from single guy to husband to dad. Your priorities change fast. Time gets tighter. Opinions multiply. And if you do not define your family values, routines, and traditions, something else will.
This episode is a practical starter kit for designing your family on purpose. We talk dinner table culture, small traditions that your kids will remember forever, and the conversations you need to have with your spouse before outside expectations start steering your home. We also unpack how different family backgrounds collide once you get married, especially around holidays and extended family. One spouse may be used to big loud gatherings, the other may be used to quiet holidays with just a few people. Neither is wrong, but you have to talk about it before it becomes tension.
You will hear simple ideas you can start this week like highs and lows at the table, pancakes and Disney mornings, Sunday snuggles, and an outdoor goal that gets everyone moving. We also give you one of the best questions a dad can ask when he feels unsure. What do you want your kids to say about your home when they are grown. Because you are writing that story right now.
Here is what we cover
The me to we shift and why your priorities change immediately
How to decide what kind of family you want to be, not just what kind of dad
Dinner table culture and why consistency beats perfection
Simple routines that kids thrive on, even as toddlers
Easy conversation starters for kids, highs and lows, giggle and wiggle, and more
How to talk with your wife about values before you announce them to the world
Big family holidays versus quiet holidays and finding middle ground
Traditions you loved growing up and traditions you are ready to leave behind
The outside goal, one thousand hours outdoors and why it shapes your week
The question that changes everything, what do you want your kids to say about you
Values you can design around church, activity, nutrition, and technology boundaries
A simple way to audit your family culture, look at your bank statement and calendar
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HomeworkAsk each other this question and write it downWhat do we want our kids to say about our home in twenty years
Callouts• Send us one family value you are building right now and we will share favorites in a future episode• Join the Spit Up Society for weekly prompts, dad hacks, and community
 
 
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Solo episode from John. Just two minutes. We built the thing we wish we'd had in the third trimester and I want to tell you about it. If your partner is anywhere between week 28 and 40 and you've been feeling like you're missing something you can't quite name, this one's for you.
 
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Parents, in laws, and grandparents can be one of the biggest blessings in early parenthood. They can also be the biggest source of stress if expectations are unclear.
What does it actually look like to design your family on purpose and not just react to life?
In part three of our Family Matters series, John and Michael sit down with Josh Mackey, husband, dad of two daughters, and pastor in Denver, to talk about the rhythms, values, and mission that shape a family from the inside out. Josh brings both his own story as a dad and years of walking alongside other families through the hard stuff, and he does not hold back.
The conversation starts with the identity shift that hits you the moment you become a dad. Not just your schedule and your money, but who you are. How your kids are becoming like you whether you like it or not. And how that reality is either terrifying or one of the most motivating things you can hear.
Josh introduces one of the most practical tools we have heard yet. An acronym built on your family name where each letter stands for a value you actually want to live. Corny? Maybe. Powerful? Absolutely. His daughter already walks past the sign in their kitchen every day.
We also dig into Sabbath, not as a religious rule but as a rhythm of real renewal. The difference between vegging and actually being restored. How to protect a day for the things that fill you up, good food, good people, and yes, ice cream. And how that rhythm looks different in every season of life so you do not need to have it figured out before you start.
Then Josh brings the book Family on Mission into the conversation. There is a difference between having a family and a mission that compete with each other, making your family your mission and isolating them from the world, and doing family on mission where your kids are invited into your purpose and your work. They see what you actually do. They learn by watching you, not just by being told.
And we talk about failure. Because you are going to mess it up. The question is whether you model what it looks like to say you are sorry, to disagree without destroying each other, and to let your kids see that brokenness followed by forgiveness is not weakness. It is one of the greatest gifts you can give them.
Here is what we cover
Why becoming a dad is a more radical identity shift than even marriage
How your kids are learning from you by osmosis whether you are teaching them or not
The family name acronym tool Josh and Carissa built and how to make your own version
Sabbath as a rhythm of renewal versus vegging, and why it matters for your whole family
Why the goal is not hitting parenting benchmarks but building a vision for who you want to be
Family and mission competing versus family on mission together
Inviting your kids into your work and purpose and why we lost that after the industrial revolution
Why little consistent moments matter more than big surprise experiences
Modeling disagreement and repair so your kids learn what healthy conflict actually looks like
Why being the dad who says I am sorry is one of the most countercultural and powerful things you can do
A word for dads afraid of screwing up, you will, and that is okay
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Homework
Sit down with your spouse and ask: What does it mean to be the [your last name] family? Write down three values and see if you can make them stick to a word or phrase you will actually remember.
Try one intentional Sabbath this month. It does not have to be perfect. Just protect one day and fill it with the things that actually restore you.
Callouts
Send us your family acronym or value statement and we will share favorites in a future episode
Join the Spit Up Society for weekly prompts, dad hacks, and community
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What happens when you grow up without a steady dad in the house, and you decide you are going to change the story for your kids:
In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael sit down with Howie Hutchinson, a husband and dad of two in Denver, to talk about fatherhood after divorce, step parents, and rebuilding a relationship with your dad as an adult. Howie shares what it was like growing up mostly in a single parent home after his parents split, what he had to figure out on his own as a boy, and the pressure he carried for years to become the best dad possible.
This conversation is honest, hopeful, and full of practical wisdom. You will hear a powerful turning point moment when Howie told his dad that if their relationship stayed the same, he did not want to invest in a relationship between his dad and his future kids. What happened next surprised him, and it changed the direction of their relationship for the last fourteen years.
We talk about why presence matters most in the early years, why supporting your wife and building a healthy family unit is a gift to your kids, and how to avoid building your whole parenting identity in reaction to what you did not have. Howie also shares what his therapist wife taught him about grace, perspective, and the idea that maybe you got your dad’s best. It is a challenging thought, and it is freeing.
You will also hear practical ideas you can use right away, including a journal that goes back and forth between parent and child, plus a long term question every dad should ask. What do you want friendship with your kids to look like when they are adults, and what can you do today to build toward that
Here is what we cover• Growing up with a dad on the fringes and what you learn from peers instead• Divorce at nine and how it shapes a kid’s story about their father• Stepdad dynamics and what he wishes he had asked for sooner• The pressure to be the best dad and how to cool it on the pressure• A hard conversation with his dad one month before his first child was born• Rebuilding a relationship with your dad and being grateful for what you have now• Presence as a dad and why just being there matters more than you think• Supporting your wife and building a healthy family unit kids can trust• Parenting a son versus parenting a daughter and why dads shape confidence• Sliding door moments and choosing to step into connection• A back and forth journal habit that builds real relationship• How to have a million small conversations instead of one big talk
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Parents, in laws, and grandparents can be one of the biggest blessings in early parenthood. They can also be the biggest source of stress if expectations are unclear.
In part two of our Family Matters series, John and Michael talk about how to navigate family involvement during pregnancy, the hospital, and those first few weeks at home. We start with the good stuff. Date nights and babysitters you trust. The joy of multi generational moments. Watching grandparents light up with your baby. It is a short window in life and it is genuinely beautiful.
Then we get practical. You and your wife need a plan before the baby arrives. What do we want the first hours to look like. What do we want the hospital time to feel like. Do we want visitors right away or do we want space. When do we want family to come to the house. What kind of help do we actually want. Because if you do not set expectations, feelings get hurt fast even when everyone means well.
We also talk meal trains, how to make them actually helpful, and how to communicate that dropping food off is not always a visit. We share the small things that felt huge, notes and prayers, meals packaged to reheat, DoorDash credits, even groceries and premade oven meals. We also share one simple hack for out of town family visits. Come after you are home and settled, then use the help for real rest if they are willing.
Then we go there. As dads, you and your wife hold the keys to the grandparent role. That is uncomfortable to say, but it is true. Titles do not automatically equal access. Your kids are sponges, and if a relationship is unhealthy or values are being undermined, you have a responsibility to protect your family unit. We talk about how to think through that without being dramatic, how to communicate your strategy to family, and how to invite the village into the same playbook you are using, sleep, teething, routines, and safety standards that have changed since our parents raised kids.
Here is what we cover• Why this season is a rare multi generational window and why it matters • Date nights, babysitters, and the reality of leaving your toddler with someone new • Hospital expectations and why hour one can get tense fast • How to decide who visits, when, and what you want the first hours to feel like • Out of town family strategy, come after you are home and settled • The meal train rules that make it truly helpful, drop and go, not a dinner party • Meal ideas that actually serve new parents, reheatable portions, notes, DoorDash, groceries • Updating grandparents on modern safety, sleep sacks, no loose blankets, no stuffed animals in crib • Sharing your family playbook so grandparents can follow your routines without guessing • The truth, you hold the keys to the grandparent role and you can set limits when needed • Kids are sponges, why boundaries matter more than you think
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